Potty Plea for Help

Okay we're giving it a go today.  The girls are down for a nap so I'm looking for help or suggestions.  I know some followers here have twins.  So....Seren has done amazing.  I used the Potty Training in One Day method complete with peeing doll from the thrift store.  We've drank lots of juice and had lots of salty snacks and rewards.  As soon as we were done training the doll and ready for big girl panties I put them both on the potty (we only have one floor model; plus a couple insert style, one with a ladder) and "da da da da" the music went off almost immediately with Seren.  She pee'd full on and with the music reward I think she honestly tried harder to push more pee out.  Awesome!  She has also been dry all morning with no accidents yet.  She has only used the potty once so I still expect quite a few accidents here as well (although I would love to take a miracle of none if it happened HAHA).

Kendall has had a harder time.  She was excited for the potty and her panties but she sat on the toilet for a few minutes and no luck.  We watched a potty video and came back to it every 10 minutes.  She had an accident in her thick cotton panties (thank goodness we went that route...the Gerber ones caught most of it despite being soaked).  She was upset and I said it was okay and to just try to use the potty (in case there was any left).  No luck.  Changed to a dry pair and set the timer again.  Watched some more potty movie.  She went to the potty but when I wanted to help her try she got upset and said "no...up up" while pulling her panties up.  So we went back to the movie and a couple minutes later she was wet again.  She was upset at being wet and uncomfortable.  We sat on the potty again and had her clean up the little mess.  No scolding.  Time for lunch.  Tried the potty with both of them before sitting down to eat...nope.  Sat them down to eat and Kendall wanted to get down and on the potty but nothing.  Finished eating and again she wanted on the potty but got upset if I tried to help her pull her panties down.  She didn't go.  Seren wants to try and nothing but she's still dry.  Seren gets up and I look over at Kendall and she's soaked her third pair of panties and the laminate flooring all around her (big accident).  She comes over and I have her sit on the potty and nothing more.  Change to dry panties again and have her help clean up the mess (Seren wants to help clean up too).

So...no scolding or dwelling on it even though the third time I had to check myself as I caught myself saying "what are we going to do with you?" in a light tone.  But anyway no punishment and just matter of fact clean it up, move on and try again later.  I've begun just letting her get her own panties down and this has helped with the defiance to not sit on the potty (I think).  I'm going to try putting the potty chair in the bathroom with our adult insert model with ladder attached.  Then I think I'll be trying to just entertain them to keep them on the potty for 5 minutes at a time every 10 or 15 minutes.  Hopefully if they both have a potty to sit on then it will be easier to "sit and wait it out".

Any other tips on the chaos that is potty training twins??   I reward them both for trying and for "dry and clean" checks.  When Seren used the potty she got two crackers and Kendall got one for Seren's success.  Should I reward Kendall too?? I don't want it to feel like punishment if one uses the potty and the other does not at that time.  Blah!  Didn't expect easy but didn't expect them to be so different in their potty method either.  Hoping Kendall can have some success after their nap so I can heap on the praise and get her spirits back up.

Update:  Kendall had no successes all day :(  Poor girl.  She was so exhausted and I think done with the idea by bedtime.  And once her diaper went on for bed she promptly pooped in it (twice)...so I hope this doesn't mess up her rhythm.  I did okay though and didn't scold her or anything...I think she was just frustrated with it.  Seren did pretty well.  She had a few accidents after nap but nothing major (one during dinner which I kind of expected and one that dribbled to the carpet).  Other than that she was dry and able to pee on the potty a few more times before bed.  Diapers are back on for bed of course.

Now I'm just trying to figure out my next play.  Do I try Kendall with no panties or trainers on...take the safety net away?  Do I not try to train her and just focus on Seren for now?  Not my idea of a fun way to spend a week but I don't want to give up yet either.  I have read a few times that once you start you shouldn't quit or the child(ren) just think they don't have to try next time either.  Maybe that's wrong too.  Who knows what the expert advice is these days.