Fictional Fooey (media and infertility not mixing yet again)

I get so intrigued and then almost immediately generally annoyed when it comes to infertility coming up in the media.  I recently started catching episodes of my old favorite TV show "Felicity" on NetFlix.  I lived and breathed that show during my college years and related to it in so many ways (chopping my hair off after a breakup, stupid college crushes and impulsive decisions).  I still find it amusing a little but the last episode I watched caught me off guard.  It actually touched on egg donation.  I didn't remember this ever being a topic.  Of course it would have been when I was seemingly fertile and not having problems with my period so why on earth would it strike any chord with me right?  Well this time it did and to tell you the truth it kind of pissed me off.

Felicity is asked by Javier to consider being an egg donor for him and his partner/husband.  I know the situation in the show is slightly different and dealing with egg donation and gay marriage/unions at the same time (it's not real drama without an extra layer right?).  I am not really touching base on that aspect.  It was sweet to hear the thoughts of Felicity considering it...reasons I would hope a donor would donate for.  To help someone realize their dreams of being a parent and that type of thing.  But Ben, Felicity's boyfriend, didn't agree with it saying "it would be your child" and "someone else would be raising your child" and "you'd have nothing to say about how they did it" and "think of Julie and how her adoptive parents loved her but she still wanted to find her real parents".  Eventually Felicity decided that Ben was right and she couldn't donate (of course in real life doctors and psychologists weed out people with unsure intentions).  They both agreed it would happen for Javier with someone else donating.

The conversations about it between Ben and Felicity just rubbed me all wrong .  No Kendall and Seren are not my genetic children but they are my children and I am their mother.  And come hell or high water that is how I will always think of them.  Will everyone in the world agree with that...probably not.  But the only people I hope agree are those directly related to me and my family (especially my daughters being #1 on that list).  I hope I will understand when they want to know more about their story and how they came to be.  I try to mentally prepare myself and them (when they are older) to understand it's different  unique from a lot of families.  I hope that they aren't disappointed or alienated because of our choices but even if they were it wouldn't change my feelings.  I am their mother.  I carried them and gave birth to them and if it weren't for Jeff and I they wouldn't be here, just as if it weren't for them we wouldn't be parents.  I love them more than I ever thought possible.  They will always get the very best from us.

Fictional characters and real life writers with no experience will never know what it's like on this side of the fence.  I think they are hopefully well intended and just trying to touch on topics that are mainstream.  But seriously I think I need to lower my expectations (like A LOT) of them getting any of it right.