After all there is nothing wrong or unusual about people having assistance to have kids these days. It's totally normal. And I'm sure with twins it's almost even more expected for the norm. And I feel like by starting the girls' lives and this pregnancy with hiding this that it's like telling them it's not okay or normal. That it makes it seem like I'm embarrassed by how we got to this point or that possibly in the long-term they would feel embarrassed by it also. I don't think there's any reason for that. I want them to know their story and be proud of it and not feel like it's a dirty secret or something.
So from now on I think when people ask if the twins were a surprise that I will just say something like "not exactly...we had a little help" or something. That doesn't imply what type or more information then is needed but also doesn't give the impression that getting pregnant is easy for everyone. In some ways I want people to know how much we wanted these babies too...for the girls to know how much we wanted them. I hope that makes sense.
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It makes perfect sense to me. Why should we feel ashamed or make the girls feel ashamed for something that is completely normal in this day and age? Not that we have to go into tons of detail when people ask, but I'm totally on board with indicating that we had a little help.
I 100% in my career I have to kinda be an open book. I am a hair stylist and I've told everyone except for a select few that we are doing egg donor and all of my clients know that we are doing IVF. Jake and I have decided that we want our children to know from the get go where they came from and what a miracle they are. I say they like we are having more than 1 lol. Anyways I think it is completely appropriate to tell people that you had a little help and leave it at that. I still havent had a chance to sit down and read your BLOG but I plan to once I"m on bedrest for a week. Hope you are feeling great... ;)
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